Confident Comportment

     Attitude is what makes a motorcycle rider a “biker”. The clothes, swagger, posture, and way a biker looks at a non-rider communicates a confidence and strength that may or may not be the reality. The power presence creates the “bad biker” impression.

     Your comportment influences how other people believe in and respect you. Use these communication techniques to project a confident image.

• Eliminate unnecessary filler-words from your speech. “Ummm”, “sort of”, “like”, and “errrr” detract from your message. What detracts from your message makes your message weaker.
• Avoid butting. Make a positive statement, then use a “but” leading to a second statement and you invalidate the previous statement. Replace “but” with “and”, or end with a period. Then move on to the next statement.
• End sentences with verbal periods. At the end of a statement, your voice goes down. When your voice goes up your statement becomes a question. Questions imply you need reassurance from the other person.
• Say what you mean. This is a cliché, yet we edit ourselves before we open our mouths. In business, ask direct questions and make the comments you want to make.
• Plan your points and know your desired outcome. Keep yourself on track by returning to your key points. Draw your communications to a close by targeting your desired outcome.

     People tend to follow, believe, and respect people who seem like they know what they are doing or saying. Communicate so that you seem like you do.

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